Comments for Parenting - A State of Being http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:17:43 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Back to school – Health Issues by Tanya http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/08/27/back-to-school-health-issues/#comment-13 Tanya Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:17:43 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=56#comment-13 Amy, Thank you for writing this. I have been having conversations with my son...alowing him...to talk. I recetley had an interesting conversation with him about his "Sore throat." I asked him, "What is it that you feel you don't have a choice?" He said, "I am not allowed to use the washroom during Class. My teacher says that it disturbs her teaching. If I do go to the washroom, then I do not go out for recess...So mommy I held in my pee." Now, the fire in me, the fury was overwhelming. I reasured him that i will take care of this.. I will have a talk with his teacher with him present. The thing i am having a hard time with is...If I allow him to voice his opinion to me and it is disrepectful...how would I aproach that? For example calling me "Stupid" becasue he is going through something.. how would we aproach that in a Welsystems way? Yes i did ask him questions after that..i told him i would not acept him calling me names ect... I have so many questions.. Amy, Thank you for writing this. I have been having conversations with my son…alowing him…to talk. I recetley had an interesting conversation with him about his “Sore throat.” I asked him, “What is it that you feel you don’t have a choice?” He said, “I am not allowed to use the washroom during Class. My teacher says that it disturbs her teaching. If I do go to the washroom, then I do not go out for recess…So mommy I held in my pee.” Now, the fire in me, the fury was overwhelming. I reasured him that i will take care of this.. I will have a talk with his teacher with him present.

The thing i am having a hard time with is…If I allow him to voice his opinion to me and it is disrepectful…how would I aproach that?

For example calling me “Stupid” becasue he is going through something.. how would we aproach that in a Welsystems way?

Yes i did ask him questions after that..i told him i would not acept him calling me names ect…

I have so many questions..

]]> Comment on Back to school – Health Issues by Lisa Olivia http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/08/27/back-to-school-health-issues/#comment-12 Lisa Olivia Fri, 28 Aug 2009 07:05:06 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=56#comment-12 Amy! You amaze me. Once again I'm reminded of how conversations can transform us all the way down to the physical level. I've also become aware of how your insights and shared experiences create in me an awareness of my past, and allow me to see new possibilities for when I become a parent figure someday, and (yes, there's more! though I cannot express in words, it's the affect of your words on me at this moment). Past, Future, Present. And Beyond! Many Thank Yous. Amy! You amaze me. Once again I’m reminded of how conversations can transform us all the way down to the physical level. I’ve also become aware of how your insights and shared experiences create in me an awareness of my past, and allow me to see new possibilities for when I become a parent figure someday, and (yes, there’s more! though I cannot express in words, it’s the affect of your words on me at this moment). Past, Future, Present. And Beyond! Many Thank Yous.

]]> Comment on Back to school – Health Issues by Louise LeBrun http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/08/27/back-to-school-health-issues/#comment-11 Louise LeBrun Fri, 28 Aug 2009 03:15:22 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=56#comment-11 Amy, thank you for writing this. I heave a sigh of relief to know that you're out there, helping all of us to stay awake! Works for me :) L Amy, thank you for writing this. I heave a sigh of relief to know that you’re out there, helping all of us to stay awake!

Works for me :)

L

]]> Comment on A family journey of self discovery by Lisa Olivia http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/06/03/a-family-journey-of-self-discovery/#comment-10 Lisa Olivia Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:38:43 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=40#comment-10 Beautiful. This new way that you, Amy, are creating a truly dynamic way of being for yourself, your husband, and Meagan. The last words of your blog, "...we may discover that there’s lots more for us to explore together and maybe sometimes alone", so powerfully represent just how much you honor and respect yourself and each person you share your life with. In your words I find more of what is meaningful for me. I love who you are. :-) Beautiful. This new way that you, Amy, are creating a truly dynamic way of being for yourself, your husband, and Meagan. The last words of your blog, “…we may discover that there’s lots more for us to explore together and maybe sometimes alone”, so powerfully represent just how much you honor and respect yourself and each person you share your life with. In your words I find more of what is meaningful for me. I love who you are. :-)

]]> Comment on A family journey of self discovery by Naomi Irons http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/06/03/a-family-journey-of-self-discovery/#comment-9 Naomi Irons Wed, 03 Jun 2009 16:28:20 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=40#comment-9 Thank you Amy for your willingness to stay in the TOUGH conversations! Not only with yourself, but with your family. You stand alone and in doing so become the inspiration for others to go where they dared not go before. I am one of them... With great RIG for who YOU are, Naomi Thank you Amy for your willingness to stay in the TOUGH conversations! Not only with yourself, but with your family. You stand alone and in doing so become the inspiration for others to go where they dared not go before. I am one of them…
With great RIG for who YOU are,
Naomi

]]> Comment on Even when you’re here, you’re not by Lisa Olivia http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/05/28/even-when-youre-here-youre-not/#comment-8 Lisa Olivia Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:00:53 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=37#comment-8 Meagan is brilliant. Thanks, Amy, for your recognizing the brilliance in each of us. You, too, are one of the most brilliant stars shining in the sky, day in and day out. You're amazing. What I've just recognized is that this blog about parenting is absolutely very relevant for me. You are helping me recognize my own child who I don't pay enough attention to, though she has so much to share, so much to share with me and others. Mahalo. :-) Meagan is brilliant. Thanks, Amy, for your recognizing the brilliance in each of us. You, too, are one of the most brilliant stars shining in the sky, day in and day out. You’re amazing. What I’ve just recognized is that this blog about parenting is absolutely very relevant for me. You are helping me recognize my own child who I don’t pay enough attention to, though she has so much to share, so much to share with me and others. Mahalo. :-)

]]> Comment on Time to get interested in your child’s life by Growing Forward http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/04/23/time-to-get-interested-in-your-childs-life/#comment-6 Growing Forward Fri, 24 Apr 2009 23:06:39 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-6 I appreciate you sharing what came up for you when reading this blog. Like you said, This space isn't only for parents but everyone when you really consider the context. We've all been children at some point and who knows, maybe this will create space for you to consider parenting differently if you ever choose to become a mother. Even in you don't, this is still an opportunity to consider life differently. Mahalo, Amy I appreciate you sharing what came up for you when reading this blog. Like you said, This space isn’t only for parents but everyone when you really consider the context. We’ve all been children at some point and who knows, maybe this will create space for you to consider parenting differently if you ever choose to become a mother. Even in you don’t, this is still an opportunity to consider life differently.

Mahalo,
Amy

]]> Comment on Time to get interested in your child’s life by Growing Forward http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/04/23/time-to-get-interested-in-your-childs-life/#comment-5 Growing Forward Fri, 24 Apr 2009 23:03:38 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-5 Thank-you for sharing your thoughts with me. Our children are amazing. The challenge becomes creating the space for them to evolve that way. I'm discovering for myself that staying present to myself and my child is very important, especially when most people at this point don't view things the same way as I do. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts, Amy Thank-you for sharing your thoughts with me. Our children are amazing. The challenge becomes creating the space for them to evolve that way. I’m discovering for myself that staying present to myself and my child is very important, especially when most people at this point don’t view things the same way as I do.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts,
Amy

]]> Comment on Time to get interested in your child’s life by Lisa http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/04/23/time-to-get-interested-in-your-childs-life/#comment-4 Lisa Fri, 24 Apr 2009 22:35:50 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-4 Amy, your message is as necessary for our lives as oxygen is for our lungs. I sit here, tears streaming. I am not a mother, do not have a child in the typical sense. I came to this blog again, of my own choosing, because these words are exactly what I needed. You helped me remember more of my own high school experience -- I've not wanted to remember, in the past. I feel so ashamed. I distinctly in this moment, as I breathe, exhale remembering the words I submitted for my grade 12 yearbook at HERH. It was posted next to my photo. We were given a form to fill in nickname, future plans, etc., including what we wanted to leave behind. Well, I wrote something like "I wish to leave everything exactly the same so that everyone else will have to suffer through it like I did." Wow. I can't believe I actually said that. At the time, I wanted to try and make it sound funny. Nothing in the least bit humorous about that. I love this parenting blog. It's all about the children and all about each one of us because if you're reading this, you've been a child. Maybe still a child. I wonder how many children and young adults might be reading this. When will you begin presenting this body of parenting knowlede in schools? I was just thinking, oh, it can wait until I have a child in school (heh heh). And then, immediately, that's no joke, this cannot wait!! Tears have dried, body quiets. Stability. And there's more to come. I'm hungry for more and my digestion is strong. Amy, I so look forward to more on this blog and hope to have the opportunity to share it with those who are parents right now. Mahalo. Amy, your message is as necessary for our lives as oxygen is for our lungs.

I sit here, tears streaming. I am not a mother, do not have a child in the typical sense. I came to this blog again, of my own choosing, because these words are exactly what I needed. You helped me remember more of my own high school experience — I’ve not wanted to remember, in the past. I feel so ashamed. I distinctly in this moment, as I breathe, exhale remembering the words I submitted for my grade 12 yearbook at HERH. It was posted next to my photo. We were given a form to fill in nickname, future plans, etc., including what we wanted to leave behind. Well, I wrote something like “I wish to leave everything exactly the same so that everyone else will have to suffer through it like I did.” Wow. I can’t believe I actually said that. At the time, I wanted to try and make it sound funny. Nothing in the least bit humorous about that. I love this parenting blog. It’s all about the children and all about each one of us because if you’re reading this, you’ve been a child. Maybe still a child. I wonder how many children and young adults might be reading this. When will you begin presenting this body of parenting knowlede in schools? I was just thinking, oh, it can wait until I have a child in school (heh heh). And then, immediately, that’s no joke, this cannot wait!!

Tears have dried, body quiets. Stability. And there’s more to come. I’m hungry for more and my digestion is strong. Amy, I so look forward to more on this blog and hope to have the opportunity to share it with those who are parents right now. Mahalo.

]]> Comment on Time to get interested in your child’s life by Tanya http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/2009/04/23/time-to-get-interested-in-your-childs-life/#comment-3 Tanya Thu, 23 Apr 2009 14:12:46 +0000 http://parenting4potential.wordpress.com/?p=13#comment-3 Amy... I am...I am so grateful we on all levels (i feel) feel so Intensly the same. I understand your words as I am saying them. When I began to tear, Your wrote you were tearing. Unbelievable. Since Jacob has been a baby. I have always been telling him to listen to his body..and to trust it. His body will lead him. Well His body lead him one week ago. Not knowing his (Father) and knowing his "daddy" as My fiance... Walked into my room, and said. "Mommy, good thing i did not have to go to Jim's house mommy...remeber him?" I could not believe....He remembered. I was speechless.. Then he clenched up...his jaw was tight, a tear rolled down his face..his hands in a fist like form...and said..(he is 6).. "ahhh mommy.. now i remember, Jim left me alone..in the hall way downstairs, i was 4..a stranger came up to me and almost took me away....he always lies too mommy.. he use to make me lie also." The connection that he has with himself... I saw him looking a little uneasy for a bit.. This is the time a year that it happened..and because he listened to his body..he put his finger on it. So i held him. As long as it took. i just held him. At this time of year my beautiful boy needs me more than ever. He has not seen his "Jim" since that has happened. Because as a mother ... you just know. we lead eachother. It's my job. He is also creating space for himself about this..He is talking about it more now that he has identified it. He spoke about it in school. The teachers were thrown off. They support him really well. They give him th at space to talk. He was sitting at the art table, and said to his friend. "my Father who lives in Montreal is a lier. But my dad who i live with is the best dad in the world...i Love him so much." The other child was speechless.. Thank you Amy.. Amy… I am…I am so grateful we on all levels (i feel) feel so Intensly the same. I understand your words as I am saying them. When I began to tear, Your wrote you were tearing. Unbelievable.
Since Jacob has been a baby. I have always been telling him to listen to his body..and to trust it. His body will lead him.

Well His body lead him one week ago. Not knowing his (Father) and knowing his “daddy” as My fiance…

Walked into my room, and said. “Mommy, good thing i did not have to go to Jim’s house mommy…remeber him?”

I could not believe….He remembered. I was speechless..

Then he clenched up…his jaw was tight, a tear rolled down his face..his hands in a fist like form…and said..(he is 6)..

“ahhh mommy.. now i remember, Jim left me alone..in the hall way downstairs, i was 4..a stranger came up to me and almost took me away….he always lies too mommy.. he use to make me lie also.”

The connection that he has with himself… I saw him looking a little uneasy for a bit.. This is the time a year that it happened..and because he listened to his body..he put his finger on it. So i held him. As long as it took. i just held him.

At this time of year my beautiful boy needs me more than ever. He has not seen his “Jim” since that has happened. Because as a mother … you just know. we lead eachother. It’s my job.

He is also creating space for himself about this..He is talking about it more now that he has identified it.

He spoke about it in school. The teachers were thrown off. They support him really well. They give him th at space to talk. He was sitting at the art table, and said to his friend. “my Father who lives in Montreal is a lier. But my dad who i live with is the best dad in the world…i Love him so much.” The other child was speechless..

Thank you Amy..

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