Back to school – Health Issues

As the time draws near for my daughter to head back to school, she seems to be developing a ‘cold.’  Since I don’t see anything from common colds to any other health concern as a ‘dis-ease or illness,’ I allow myself to stop and consider what it could be.

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Instead of giving my daughter cold medication or something to ‘clear out’ the sinuses, we had a conversation around the ‘impending doom’ of returning to school.  It turns out that she’s really not looking forward to it.  And really…who could blame her? 

I’m serious.  We as adults sometime don’t remember all of the rules and strict guidelines to stay ‘within’ the box that you find in a school system.  The way that I parent is, Honest – Open – Clear and Direct.  This means that she gets to ‘be’ the exact same way.  Imagine a summer of being able to be honest and speak your truth, to returning to school where already there is a ’status quo’ in place and speaking your truth is not welcomed?  Last year I got to experience how ‘closed’ a system the school is.  Although they say they’re more open than ever before…I cringe to consider what they used to be like.

We need to create something different for our children when it comes to comments or questions about school.  If you ask them how school is for them and they say, “It sucks.”  Consider that for them…that is their reality and not yours.  Did you always like school when you were going?  Personally I had days that I was happy to be there and I also had days when I wanted to run for the hills and swear at all the teachers.  Hey!!!!  Doesn’t that sound like work for us?  

We want our children to be open with us however when they speak ‘their’ truth, we respond with a “Don’t say that.  You really don’t mean that and it could always be worse.” Ouch!  If you’re the student going to school and it felt like the worse day of your life to date, do you really want to be hearing that what you’re saying isn’t real and that it could get worse?  No.  I didn’t think so.

I do believe that as parents we mean well however if we think back to when we were younger and we got honest with our children and shared with them what it was really like, they may be more open to ‘opening’ up to us.

Something that I feel is very important is parent-teacher meetings.  I really encourage you to take your children with you and take them in the class when you speak to the teacher.  I don’t care how old your children are, they have a right to know what is being said when it’s concerning them.  Something else that’s important about both of you being in the class room with the teacher is that there’s no room for ‘he said – she said.’

Have you ever had any of these conversations with your child?  “Your teacher said…___________________is that really true?” The response comes back and your child says, “No.”  Then who do you believe?  You would hope to believe your child however, why would a teacher lie?  Oh yes, and believe me they are human and they too can lie.

This year consider creating space differently for your children to ’speak their’ truth even though you may not like to hear what they have to say.  They don’t always like what we have to say either.    If we ‘allow’ them to say whatever it is that they have to say without placing a judgment on their choice of words or anything that comes out of their mouths, they just may start sharing a lot more with us.

Oh yes, school is almost back. 

Let the good times roll!!!!!

Remember to take a deep breath and exhale, it can’t get any worse, right?

Or can it?  

Happy school year to all you parents out there.

Amy

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